true Love In Islamic

True Love in Islam
Meaning of 'True Love' continues to be sought and explored. Man from age to age to talk about it as if it never bored. Actually? what's 'True Love' and how Muslims view him?
Alhamdulillah, hopefully terlimpahkan sholawat and salam to the Prophet Muhammad, his family and friends.
Society anywhere in the world are currently being harassed by the myth of 'True Love', and lulled by the dream 'Sacred Love'. Therefore,-do, they prepare to celebrate the day of love "Valentine's Day".
On this occasion, I do not want to invite you trace the history and chronology of this warning. And also do not want to talk about today's celebrations to follow the law. Because I am sure, you've heard and read about it all. However, I would like to invite you to a little dive: what is love? Is there true love and pure love? And a model of what love had adorned your heart?
A researcher from Researchers at the National Autonomous University of Mexico reveal the results of his research was so surprising. He said: A love affair is doomed to saturation point, not just because of sheer boredom, but because of the chemicals in the brain that activates the love that has been depleted. Sense infatuated and in love with someone is not going to last more than 4 years. If it has 4 years old, love vanished, and there remained only sex drive, instead of a pure love again.
According to him, feeling madly in love appears at the beginning and expenses caused by the activation of specific chemical component in the brain, hormones such as dopamine, endorphins, pheromones, oxytocin, neuropinephrine that makes a person feel happy, flowery and radiant. But as time goes by, and the responsibility and exposure to storm dynamics of the effects of these hormones diminish and disappear. (Source: www.detik.com Wednesday, 09/12/2009 17:45 pm).
Well, how's that for the fate of your love dearer than your spouse? And what about the fate of your love to your partner? It could be gone and buried long ago.
You want to be miserable because no longer feel the beauty of love with your partner and no longer enjoy the gentle cradle of love with him? Or do you want to still feel how wonderful love your partner and also how happy loving your spouse?
Brother, if you love your partner for beauty or good looks, so this time I believe the notion that he is the prettiest and most handsome, has faded.
When the first taste you love him grow because he is a rich man, then I'm sure at this time, no longer spectacular wealth in your eyes.
If you love blossomed since she was a high dignitaries and respected in the community, then the current position is no longer as bright as the first sparkling dazzle your views.
Brother! if you are already bound in love to someone, but it is not your husband or wife, it is better if you test your levels of love. Get to know the extent to which the holiness and sincerity you love him. Try to sit down for a moment, imagine you are in a state of toothless lover dented, tattered clothes sitting in a decrepit slum. Will you still love as powerful rumbling you feel right now?
The scholars 'history relates that one day Abdurrahman ibn Abi Bakr radhiallahu' anhu traveling to Sham for trade. On the way, he saw a slender-bodied woman, beautiful and shapely named Laila Al Judi Bintu. Unexpectedly and mistaken, Laila Cupid's darts pierced heart raced and Abdurrahman ibn Abi Bakr radhiallahu 'anhu. So since that day, Abdurrahman radhiallahu 'anhu drunk intoxicated therefore, could not help but love the storm Laila Al Judi Bintu. So Abdurrahman radhiallahu 'anhu often weave bair-stanza poem, to express her screams. The following are among the verses of poetry he had the chain:
I always thought of Laila which is across the country SamawahDuhai, what Bintu Laila Al Judi affair with me?My heart is always shrouded by the shadow of the womanParas face pobud shadowing my eyes and I thought to inhabit.Duhai, when will I be able to see him,Hopefully along the pilgrimage caravan, he came, and I met.
Because so often he mentions the name of Laila, to the extent that the Caliph Umar ibn Al Khattab radhiallahu 'anhu feel sorry for him. So when he sent troops to subdue the land war Sham, he advised the commander of the war: when Laila Al Judi Bintu including one of your war prisoners (thus becoming slaves), then give it to Abdurrahman radhiallahu 'anhu. And Subhan Allah, Allah taqdir after the Muslims had mastered Sham country, including one obtained Laila prisoners of war. So Abdurrahmanpun dream come true soon. Comply with the message Caliph Umar radhiallahu 'anhu, then Laila who has been a prisoner perangpun be given to Abdurrahman radhiallahu' anhu.
You can imagine how overjoyed Abdurrahman, shoots love side dish arrived, dreams really accomplished. So love Abdurrahman radhiallahu 'anhu to Laila, to the extent that he forgot his other wives. He did not get treatment reasonable, then his wives complained that another party to the behavior Abdurrahman 'wife Aisha Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam who is her biological sister.
Responding to reprimand her sister, Abdurrahman said: "Do not you see how beautiful teeth, which like pomegranate seeds?"
But not so long Laila treat Abdurrahman romance, she overwritten disease that causes lips "Shining" (fall, so the teeth are always visible). Since then, Abdurrahman love fade and even disappear. When first he came to forget about the other wives, so now she began to be extreme. Abdurrahman no longer willing to see Laila and always being rude to him. Could not receive this treatment, Lailapun denounce her husband's attitude to 'Aisha radhiallahu' anha. Laila got this complaint, then 'Aisyahpun immediately rebuked his brother, saying:
يا عبد الرحمن لقد أحببت ليلى وأفرطت, وأبغضتها فأفرطت, فإما أن تنصفها, وإما أن تجهزها إلى أهلها, فجهزها إلى أهلها.
"O Abdurrahman, first you love Laila and excessive in love. Now you hate and hate excessive in. Now, should you choose: You be fair to him or you return it to his family. Because urged by his sister so, then eventually repatriate Abdurrahmanpun Laila to her family. (Tarikh Damascus by Ibn 'Asakir 35/34 & Tahzibul Kamal by Al Mizzi 16/559)
How my brother! You want a taste of how bitter a fate experienced by Bintu Laila Al Judi? Or do you dream of a fate similar to that experienced by Abdurrahman ibn Abi Bakr radhiallahu 'anhu? (1)
Do not be surprised if your ancestors have warned you to always be aware of this fact. They revealed this fact in an expression that is quite unique: the neighboring Grass looks greener than the grass itself.
You are curious to know, why this fact could happen?
Discover the secrets to the words of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam following:
المرأة عورة فإذا خرجت استشرفها الشيطان. رواه الترمذي وغيره
"The woman is nakedness (to be covered), when he he came out of his house, then the devil will be impressed him so beautiful (in the eyes of men who are not mahram)." (History At Tirmizy and others)
Arabs express this phenomenon by saying:
كل ممنوع مرغوب
Any such forbidden interesting (lure).
Previously, when the relationship between you and her forbidden in the religion, the devil tried his best to obscure the view and common sense, so you washed away by storms romance. Because you are lost in a storm illicit romance, then you become blind eyes and deaf ears to be, so you also slogan: Love is blind. In Arabic proverb stated:
حبك الشيء يعمي ويصم
Your love for something, make you blind and deaf.
But after the relationship between the two of you have been lawful, the devil spontaneous uncover their face, and turn. Satan no longer spread the veil in your eye, instead trying to stem the vicious storm that has been raging romance in your soul. At that moment, you begin to discover the identity of your partner as it is. At that time you begin to realize that the relationship with your partner is not only limited to the affairs of the face looks, social status, possessions. You begin to realize that the husband-wife relationship is more widespread than just a face or face positions and possessions. What's more, Satan has reversed course, and trying hard to separate you two in divorce:
فيتعلمون منهما ما يفرقون به بين المرء وزوجه. البقرة 102
"So they learned from Harut and Marut (the name of two demons) that what they can divorce her (separate) between a (husband) from his wife." (Surat al-Baqara: 102)
You may ask, then how should I behave?
Be reasonable and always use common sense and your conscience. Thus, the veil of romance does not make your view blurry and you are not easily washed away by boasting lies and false promises.
Maybe you re asked: If so, who is actually eligible to get my holy love? To whom I should love my tether strap?
Listen to the answer of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
تنكح المرأة لأربع لمالها ولحسبها وجمالها ولدينها, فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك. متفق عليه
"Normally, a woman was married for four reasons: because of their wealth, position, beauty and because of his religion. You should marry the religious woman, surely you will be happy and lucky. "(Agreed alaih)
And in another hadith he said:
إذا خطب إليكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوه إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة فى الأرض وفساد عريض. رواه الترمذي وغيره.
"If there is a religion and has akhlaqnya you like, come to apply, then accept his proposal. If not, will undoubtedly be chaos and massive destruction on earth. "(History At Tirmizy and others)
Growing love for the faith, pious deeds, and noble morality, will continue to blossom. Not be cracked by the sun, and did not fade because of rain, and would not break even death have been picked.
الأخلاء يومئذ بعضهم لبعض عدو إلا المتقين. الزخرف 67
"People who (during the world) love each other on that day will be foes one to another except the pious." (Surat Az Zukhruf: 67)
Brother! Love your boyfriend because of faith, charity and pious akhlaqnya, that eternal love. Do not you ever crave love adorning yourself even if you have entered into the grave and later resurrected on the Day of Resurrection? Would not you expect that your boyfriend is always loyal and love you even though you have elderly and even have inhabited the grave?
Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
ثلاث من كن فيه وجد حلاوة الإيمان: أن يكون الله ورسوله أحب إليه مما سواهما, وأن يحب المرء لا يحبه إلا لله, وأن يكره أن يعود فى الكفر كما يكره أن يقذف فى النار. متفق عليه
"Three things, when they are present in a person, he undoubtedly felt the sweetness of faith: When Allah and His Messenger more than he loves apart from them, she loves someone, she does not love him but because of God, and he hates to return to kufr after God saved him, like his hatred if you want pushed into the flames. "(Agreed alaih)
Brother! just love that blossomed because of faith and morality mulialah sacred and true. This love will be eternal, timeless in the wind or sunlight, and did not fade because of the rain.
Yahya bin Mu'az said: "Love for God will not increase just because the person you love do you good, and not be reduced because it is rude to you." That is because you love blossom grows because of the faith, pious and charitable noble morality, faith so that when someone you love does not grow, then you also will not grow in love. And conversely, if the one you love faith decreases, the love you also helped reduced. You love him, not because of the material, the position or rank of a beautiful face, but because he is faithful and noble berakhlaq. This is the eternal holy love my brother.
Brother! after you read this simple, let me ask: Is it true that you love the sacred? Is it true that your love is true love? Prove brother ...
Wallahu a'alam bisshowab, sorry if there are words that are less pleasing or offensive.
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Ustadz Muhammad Arifin Badri, M.A.Republished from www.pengusahamuslim.com
Footnote:
1) My brother, after reading the love story of friend Abdurrahman ibn Abi Bakr, I hope you do not comment or speak badly about best friend Abdurrahman ibn Abi Bakr. Because he was one of the companions of the Prophet, so have the honor to be your case. As for the errors and mistakes that happen, then it is a regular thing, because he's also human, could be wrong and can make mistakes. Good deeds of the Companions of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam so much so that it will cover oversights. Not until you feel yourself better than anyone let alone to cause you ridiculed because of an oversight that he did. Mentioned in one atsar (greeting a scholar 'earlier):
من عير أخاه بذنب من عابه به لم يمت حتى يعمله
"Anyone who reproached his brother for a sin which he did, it is not dead until he fell into the same sin."